Have you made the pledge, or are you thinking about it? Not sure how to go about making it a reality?
Don’t worry, we’re here to help!
Luckily, we know thousands of people bringing their communities together all over the country. And here is what they have found helpful when getting together with people they may not at first think they have anything in common with.
Who can I get back together with?
It doesn’t have to be difficult or scary (and it doesn’t need to be about Brexit!)
No matter our political or religious beliefs there are many things we all have in common, whether it’s love for our family, having fun, wanting the best for our community.
It could be someone:
- You disagree with whether it’s religion, politics or something personal.
- You’ve argued or fallen out with
- You’ve lost touch with, whether you’ve changed jobs, moved away or just been too busy
- You’re avoiding or avoiding certain topics with
Where can I get back together?
In the comfort of your own home! Kick things off with a simple hello via text or on social media.
A perfect opportunity could also be on The Great Get Together weekend. Loads of them are happening all over the country. Check our interactive map to see if one is happening near you or see our step-by-step guide to start one yourself.
What shall I say?
- Ask if they want to go for a coffee, drink or a bite to eat.
- Invite them to do an activity – cinema, music gig, dog walk, park run – that way you’ll have something other than the conversation to focus on if things get awkward.
- Get straight to the point – what is it you’ve been afraid to say?
How can we overcome our differences?
Remember the point of your meeting is not to change their mind, it’s to find out or rediscover the things you have in common. Use this to keep the conversation positive.
- Do you have mutual friends/ family? Ask them for any news or gossip on the friends and family you share?
- Do you work together? Have there been any changes in the team lately? What are you working on?
- Do you live in the same area? Any tips for places to eat, take the kids? How are schools/ parking/ transport?
- Do you have similar hobbies? Whether it’s football, craft, reading, TV and film, hiking – get some tips and ideas, or have a moan!
Try something new
To have a constructive conversation, you may have to approach it in a different way than a normal chat.
- Listen… make a point of being quiet more than usual
- Ask open questions e.g. ‘Can you tell me why you think that?’ ‘When did you come to that belief’